Bechdel Test

According to the Bechdel Trest, The movie/book/webseries just has to pass these three simple questions:-

#1  It has to have at least two women in it who have names.

#2  Who talk to each other

#3  About something besides a man.

 

Simple! Right?

WRONG!

Majority of movies fail this test!

Think about the last few movies you saw, did that pass the three rules mentioned above?

 

The Fault In Our Stars: Book Review

Author: John Green

The Fault in Our Stars

Book Blurb:

Despite the tumor-shrinking medical miracle that has bought her a few years, Hazel has never been anything but terminal, her final chapter inscribed upon diagnosis. But when a gorgeous plot twist named Augustus Waters suddenly appears at Cancer Kid Support Group, Hazel’s story is about to be completely rewritten.

Insightful, bold, irreverent, and raw, The Fault in Our Stars is award-winning author John Green’s most ambitious and heartbreaking work yet, brilliantly exploring the funny, thrilling, and tragic business of being alive and in love.

My Review:

Yesterday started on a normal note. Got up, walked the dog, yada yada….opened my Facebook before opening any other website. And I see THIS:

And being the stupid romantic that I am, searched out the release dates…turns out while the rest of the world has already witnessed this, It will be released NEXT MONTH!

YAAYY!! I get time to read it then before…and just like that I found out my sister (a HUGE book hoarder like myself) had this book sitting right in her shelf!!!

Long story short…got the book last evening….completed the entire 316 pages by today morning….*takes a bow*

Sometimes there comes along a book that touches you in a way that even you have no clue…i swear there were points in books were  i was crying so bad and then all of a sudden, someone says something and I start laughing….I swear i am so thankful I was safe in the privacy of my room, else i’d have had a lot of explaining to do for the myriad emotions.

I could relate to so much in the book…like these lines, they are just exact description of what I feel…:

“Much of my life had been devoted to trying not to cry in front of people who loved me, so I knew what Augustus was doing. You clench your teeth. You look up. You tell yourself that if they see you cry, it will hurt them, and you will be nothing but a Sadness in their lives, and you must not become a mere sadness, so you will not cry, and you say all of this to yourself while looking up at the ceiling, and then you swallow even though your throat does not want to close and you look at the person who loves you and smile.” 

Also, I saw a few Harry Potter references….not sure if they were put in randomly…but..hey, anything even remotely Harry Potter is welcome!

The book deals with such serious topics like cancer and death, but it never felt like I was reading a cancer book….it offers an interesting perspective on how someone who gets sick feels…how normal they want their lives to be. The dry sarcasm is sometimes just so good, I actually felt guilty for laughing in some parts!

The writing is impeccable. This is one of those un-put-downable books….believe me…I​ started off with..I​ will just read a few chapters and turn in early…and well…rest is history..

A really good book!

If you do not have the patience to read the book, watch the movie..or preferably both!!

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What every girl needs to know

I have come across a lot of letters from dads to their little girls…mostly dealing with telling her how she “has to leave him one day”…but THIS is something else!!! Instead of telling your daughter to be and act how the society expects her to…more dads should have this framed and put up!! Loved it!

Whatever i think goes in here...

I came across this letter shared online,  and I believe with all my heart that women should get the message ingrained into themselves.  Long-standing patriarchy and the media make women believe they are not as awesome as they are, and that they need to work hard to get their man interested. If you really have to work so hard every moment of your life just to keep your man interested, he’s not there for you, he’s there for the entertainment of your silly trials to keep him interested. The moment you slip up on one tiny thing you “needed to do” to keep him interested, he’ll be gone. That’s not a soul mate. A soul mate is there for you and you alone. This is what the dad tells his daughter in this beautiful letter. Do read it. It will be worth the time.

dad's letter to daughter

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I may not be a breed dog, but I can love you just the same!

We all just love our furry friends, we get them best quality food, buy clothes, toys, beds for them, take them for a ride in our car give them a special place in our homes and our hearts!! And when anyone asks we proudly tell them “ My Fido is a pure XYZ breed!”. And at the end of the day we sleep with a smile on our faces calling ourselves “Animal lovers”

But, hang on, what about that poor little nameless dog, who lives near your street? Yes, the one that is living on your street, the one whose bones are sticking out of his body, who might not have had food or drink for days??

What is his fault that he does not get love?? Why is he always kicked and stones are thrown on him?? Is it just because his is not a “Breed”??

Traditionally, a “Breed” was named because of a place where he was born or his work. Like Dalmatians were named such because they were living in a place called Dalmatian. A German Shepherd was a dog living in Germany helping farmers there to herd their sheep. A Labrador Retriever was once living in a place near Labrador, Newfoundland where he helped hunters and fishermen retrieve their catches.

So, basically all our prided Breeds are not some blue blooded royalty, he just another dog from a foreign country. Which means that even that nameless Dog on the street has the capacity of giving you the same love and companionship as any other costly breed.

Please note, I am not saying that we should not have “Breed” dogs, I have a Labrador myself, and am absolutely in Love with him..All I am saying is, don’t treat that Dog on your street like he is some sort of untouchable trash, Adopt him too, if you are not able to bring him home, that is OK, just give him basic food and water, that’s all they ask in return for their endless, unconditional love. Is that really too much to give? I think NOT.

 

Answering Questions!

Recently I received a list of very interesting questions, and would like to respond to them here! If you have any interesting question, or if you feel like talking feel free to email me or leave a message, would Love to hear from you!

1. Do we read to “gain knowledge,” or do we read to develop “understanding.” Is there any difference between the two.
 
Yes, there is a difference between knowledge and understanding. According to me, understanding is way deeper than knowledge. 
 
Coming to the contribution of books in a person’s knowledge or understanding, I believe it is up to the reader as to whether they just read the words and gain the knowledge on the surface, or do they read the finer nuances that are hidden, go behind the written word and get an understanding…one book can mean different things to different people…a reader unconsciously adds his/her perspective which adds a dimension to the book.
 
2. How do we gain knowledge with reference to a particular thing that we read.
 
Usually, if I find some interesting reference or read about someone I find particularly interesting, I use Google, Wikipedia, youtube or Tedx talks etc to understand the reference/person better.
 
    –Should we accept in total what that piece of writing puts forward. 
 
No. Just because it is published, does not mean it is fact. It needs a proper reference check, different view points also need to be considered (if any) and then one should formulate one’s own opinion after through consideration from all the references.
    –What happens when the next piece that we read advocates “something  different”.
 
In this case, we use our gut/knowledge and think for ourselves which part resonates more to us…it may be either each one completely or we could choose to take good points from both. Totally depends on the context.
3. How do we choose what to read. Do our beliefs influence our choice (or preference) of what we read, or should it be the other way round, that is, our reading should go on to influence our belief, that too, up to what extent. 
 
Interesting…
From my limited observation, I have come across readers of both kinds actually.
What I have observed is that those who read from childhood usually are the ones whose beliefs have been shaped by the books they read. And this usually is very gradual, how they move from children’s books, to stories, then novels…their beliefs also evolve and sharpen throughout this transition.
While on the other hand, there are those readers who pick up their first book well into their adulthood. These readers usually pick up books based on their preconceived beliefs and preferences.
While the first kind of readers would be more open to try out new genres, rarely do the second type venture out of their comfort zone.
Coming to the later part of the question, yes, reading should influence a person’s beliefs. But, a person should be intelligent enough to decide what he should be influenced by and what he should take with a grain of salt. A person should not be influenced with anything and everything he comes across, reading or otherwise, that would just lead to  him being in a state of constant confusion…and as long as one knows and thinks for himself, there is no limit to the wonders that he could be influenced by.
4. Is it preferable to read “just for the joy of reading,” accept what the writer says, but, keep away from “adopting it” immediately, store the same in an “intermediate buffer” and deal with it when an appropriate “life situation” is faced and only adopt it or adept it or adapt to it at that time only.
 
Yes…not every read has to resonate with one’s intellect..sometimes its OK to read something light once in a while.
 
The question has a very large scope really…Personally,I do believe that everything that I have read has stayed with me to an extent. And whatever lessons I have learnt or should I say read about, irrespective of whether It is heavy or light, would definitely be used if I am faced with a “life situation” without a doubt. But again, this is very subjective, and I can only give my perspective.

Manhattan Mango: A Book Review

THE LIVES, LOVES, AND LAUGHS OF THREE YOUNG NRIs LIVING IN MANHATTAN

Author: Madhuri Iyer

 

Book Blurb:

Q. What happens when three ambitious, high-achieving, 20-something Mumbaikars become New Yorkers?
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A. Madness.

 

Zipping through life’s ups and downs like a high-speed elevator during rush hour, buddies Shri, Shanks, and Neel hold on to each other, and their sanity, with a bro-hood bonding that chipkos them together, fevicol se.

 

Neel’s the driven hedge fund guy, with a weakness for scotch and women. Tam Brahm Shanks, a techie, falls for the wrong girl. Good Son Shri, a banker, holds a secret he means to take to his grave. Their intertwined lives buzz with high-voltage drama — explosive secrets, super-charged romances, and a-fuse-a-minute meltdowns.

There’s alcohol-fueled passion, Devdas style. Inter-racial hook-ups. Even a fake affair, because money can’t buy the real thing. When their skyscraper-sized dreams are tested, this desified saga of friends in Manhattan is like the city’s rapid transit express subway line. You won’t want any stops in between.

 

My Review:

From Mumbai to Manhattan, this book is a journey of three guys and their bromance!

This book seems like something straight off F.R.I.E.N.D.S sitcom minus the central perk…but i’m not the one to complain…who does not want a little bit of F.R.I.E.N.D.S nostalgia now and then?

The story starts with three quintessential Mumbaikars trying to make it in Manhattan..leading busy but uncomplicated lives. Their lives suddenly take a turn with the entry of rich heiress Shefali, and along with her trails the whole entourage of people which leads to a whole lot of masala being added to their lives!

This book is not for intellectual simulation, but for general light breezy read. 

Best enjoyed with a cup of tea and a beautiful day 😉

(p.s. Thank you FINGERPRINT! publishers for sending me a copy 🙂 )