Feminism, movies

Were Rama and Sita Really An Ideal Couple?

English: Movie poster for the film Sita Sings ...

Recently I saw a really good movie on Youtube called: Sita Sings The Blues.

Watch the full movie here:

The movie deals with two stories, one Ramayana from Sita’s point of view and other a story of a modern-day New York couple.

The points that are raised were:

1) How could Ram be banished just because of a promise given to a Jealous Step-mother? Was fulfilling a promise more important for a king than doing what is right?

2) Why did Sita not go with Hanuman when he came to her when she was in Lanka? That would have saved so many lives!

3) Ravan was an otherwise a good fellow, a scholar, a devotee of Lord Shiva did one thing under the influence of others that was considered “bad”, and he is a villain?

4)Ravan never forced Sita Physically to do anything? What if he had raped Sita against her wishes? Would that have made her ‘impure’, would her love and devotion to Ram have decreased because of this?

5) How could Ram, listen to a washer-man who was himself a domestic abuser, and banish Sita? How does this make him an ‘Ideal Man’?

The use of the shadow puppets really made it all interesting.

This movie reminded my of another good Bollywood movie Lajja. Though these movie did not do well in box office, it is truly one of the most thought-provoking movie ever made, in my opinion, of course!

Here is a still from a movie where Sita absolutely refuses to go through the fire to prove her purity.

I loved the part where she says to Ram, even you have lived alone for all this time so even YOU should prove your purity.

The other parts she pointed out like she could have easily stayed in the palace and enjoyed as it was HE who was banished, still she choose to be with him and this is how he repaid her?

The entire speech is truly thought-provoking.


11 thoughts on “Were Rama and Sita Really An Ideal Couple?”

    1. Thanks!! Points made by the movie, I am just writing it out here 😉 More movies like these should be made and showed in public, but I suppose people’s sentiments would get really hurt if this movie ever made it to any multiplex.


  1. I too loved the movie “Lajja”.. it raised many questions on patriarchy.. No wonder Indian society could not digest them and the movie failed 😦


  2. Thank you so much for posting this clip from ‘Lajja’. Hats of to the movie writers for questioning what has always seemed a ridiculous idea of a woman being subjected to agni pariksha. This is one of the reasons I hesitate to expose my kid to our ‘great epics’. Honestly and ironically, I worry whether it will have a bad influence because of the blatant misogyny perpetuated in them. Hats off to Madhuri Dixit for taking on this role and doing full justice to it.

    Just started reading your blog and admire your writing style. Keep up the good work.


  3. We watched this is two different classes I took in college. One class also looked at women’s oral tellings of events in the Ramayana and poems and short stories in which the events and characters were used to address other political or social issues. It was really fascinating to see so many takes on it. I shall have to check out Lajja.


  4. Not just Ram and Seeta…many of our lords have fallen for public opinion, done wrong things and are yet idolised. Krishna and Radha for instance were married to different people yet loved each other, and we still pray to them as a couple. Talk about extramarital affair’s origin!
    I never understood why Seeta had to go through all she did, The poor lady had to live in jungles, get kidnapped, live without her husband, raise her kids alone, and yet only her sacrifice proved that she was pativrata. She’s Ram’s wife, that’s what her merit is. 😦


  5. Very good post and agree to all the points. In fact what surprises me most is that almost every Indian God has at least 2 wives,but on the other hand poor Draupadi in Mahabharata was wife to 5 men and each of the men (Pandavas) themselves had their own respective wives, but Draupadi had to be with them and like Sita had to go through hell in her life all thanks to the men in her life…


  6. I have always wondered:

    1. Sita went through so much, as depicted in Ramayana, and yet we celebrate “Ram Navami” and no one knows when Sita was born. There is no day dedicated to her.
    2. Sita’s sacrifices are remembered and she is considered ‘aadarsh pativrata naari’. What good did this do to womenkind? That women should be submissive, not question husband when he makes wrong decisions and bear hardships just to earn the “sacrifical ideal woman” tag.
    3. Why was she banished into forests, when she was pregnant? Because Rama cared for the words of a washerman who sounded misogynist to the core. Poor Sita had to raise children on her own. What happiness did she experience in her life? After marriage, it was vanvaas for her, followed by abduction by Ravana, then agnipareeksha, then banished into forests and finally merging with her mother Bhoodevi.
    4. Our epics seem to support polygamy. Only Draupadi had 5 husbands, but again all 5 of them were married to different women. So it was not polyandry in its right sense.
    5. Why does our culture support misogyny to every possible extent, citing its origins in epics?
    I have more questions in my mind, but will stop here.


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